You see this cute angelic little face?
Butter wouldn’t melt. Right?
She bites fingers, arms and cheeks. If you are holding her you can usually stop her in time, but the same can’t be said for her poor little twinnington.
This cheeky little monkey here…
… is actually the victim.
The pair will be sitting nicely, playing with their toys. Randomly, Fluffy will put her toy down, grab Tiny’s arm, bring it to her mouth and clamp down those gnashers. Tiny doesn’t retaliate. We get no warning it’s about to happen. There’s no provoking, no fighting over toys, just this!
Fluffy bites Tiny far too often for my liking. At 14 months old, Fluffy has 14 teeth, including back teeth. When she bites, she bites hard. If you shout or scream, or cry, or try to move away… she shows no sign of loosening her teeth. She lets go only when she wants to.
Tiny let’s out the most gut wrenching of screams and the poor little darling ends up with dark red teeth marks in her arms and fingers. Teeth marks so deep they take about a week to fade.
My heart breaks every time Tiny gets bitten, but Fluffy doesn’t understand “NO”. I say it anyway. I point at her and say a stern “NO” with a cross face. Then I pick Tiny up and give her a cuddle, ignoring Fluffy completely for two minutes.
I think she’s starting to learn. Now if she bites me and I say “Ow” and “No” and look cross, Fluffy cries and looks at me all apologetically, as though she knows biting is wrong. She just doesn’t get it with her twin though. No matter how hard Tiny cries, Fluffy keeps doing it.
I don’t know what else I can do to stop this. It’s all good and well people telling me to separate them, but you can’t separate twins 24/7. They are very close and they get upset if they are separated. They kiss and cuddle and play together. Sometimes they even curl up and nap together. We separate them for half an hour here and there throughout the day, but the biting is completely random. There’s no pattern to it and nothing that instigates it.
How do I stop Fluffy biting Tiny?
Oh dear, what a pain for you 🙁 My dear boy was a biter too (up until an embarrassingly old age!) And the only thing that worked was what you are trying, showering the bitten with lots of positive attention and ignoring the biter and putting him in time out. Good news is it will pass, hope it’s soon for you!
Michelle Willis says
Bear is a biter. I put him down if he’s being cuddled. My grandmother would tell you to bite her back. Not hard enough to leave a mark, but just hard enough to make her realise it’s not nice to be bitten, but I disagree with that philosophy.
I agree with the time out and ignoring stance. If that doesn’t work take something away from her that she loves and don’t let her have it for a time.
Also don’t say ‘Stop biting!’ say something like, ‘Play nicely.’ It’s kind of like if I told you not to think of an elephant. What’s the first thing that comes into your head? It’s the same with Tiny. If you stop using the word bite around her, she’ll forget about it. It’s worth a try. X
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Emma Day says
We don’t use the word bite because they don’t even seem to understand “no” yet. Lol. She’s not formed an attachment to any specific toy yet so can’t take anything away either.
I read on Supernanny, that sometimes babies bite as a sign of love because they can’t talk and they get overwhelmed with love!
It could be teething, so you could try soft teething toys for her to bite on instead, or Calpol if she seems to be in pain. Ours were both biters & other than that I’m not sure there’s a lot you can do about it, sorry! It will pass: it did with ours – although still pinches a lot!
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I don’t have any advice I’m afraid, just wanted to say hang in there, I’m sure it is just a phase. I hope it ends soon
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My twins are 15m old and Becca has been biting Sandy so hard you can still see the teeth marks 7 days later. She bites for two different reasons. When they r playing and she cuddles him she gets over-exited and bites his back.that is passing as I keep reminding her to play nicely and show her on a teddy how to cuddle. Also, if he or their older sibbling play to rough she just clamps down on nearest bodypart and worries it like a dog. That one I’m still working on, but seperate playpens good temp measure and allow you to do housework etc without constantly rescuing someone. Good luck xx
Bex @ The Mummy Adventure says
Good luck with this! No advice I am afraid but hopefully it is just a phase that will pass soon x
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