You know… that thing people tell you, that you will never get again, once you’ve had children? The phrase that puts fear into every pregnant woman! The phrase that knocks your pre-baby excitement just a little bit.
Well actually, it wasn’t like that for me. With Bunny, I had insomnia all the way through my pregnancy. I rarely slept more than 2 hours a night and not for lack of trying. I spent my nights tossing and turning through a crazed half-awake -half-asleep reality and awoke more exhausted than when I went to bed. It was a relief once I gave birth, to actually be able to sleep properly. Yes I may have had to get up for night feeds, but by time Bunny was 5 weeks old, we had her in a routine, so I’d only need to get up once in the night.
Luckily I didn’t have insomnia with the twins, but because they were low birth weight babies, I had to feed them every 3 hours for the first few weeks, then every four hours after that, until I could get them into my adapted Gina Ford routine (That lady is a goddess!).
Before I continue, I feel I must justify my stance on Gina Ford – it’s not all about controlled crying – I don’t do that. I think the point is, if you get them in a good routine – they just don’t cry, because all their needs are satisified and they are happy! That is how it worked for me!
Sleep is very important though when you are a new mum. Recovering from labour and caring for a newborn (or two) is tiring. One thing I insisted on, while pregnant with the twins, was a bigger bed – Super King Size with a really good quality mattress. The reason? Partly our babymoon at a gorgeous hotel in London giving us the most comfortable night’s sleep EVER. Also partly, my favourite part of Sunday mornings – when the kids climb in our bed for a cuddle. We figured with three children climbing in – a double bed would just be a bit too crowded!
I have to say… it really was worth it! We love snuggles in bed, all five of us. I love the extra room me and Jonny have. We can sleep soundly next to each other, without waking each other up!
And if you’ve got a nice comfy mattress yourself – it only follows that your baby should have one too! Remember to never use a second hand mattress with an infant, invest in a new one for each baby (advice recommended by the Lullaby Trust).
I guess there are mums reading this now, who probably hate me! There are probably mums (and dads) who don’t get 12 hours sleep a night with a six year old and one year old twins. However, I still think all the scaremongering is really wrong. It’s not like that for everyone. I know lots of parents who still get a good night’s sleep with young babies. Especially those mums who had insomnia in pregnancy! I think a lot of it comes down to good, well planned routines and nice comfortable beds.
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